Ok so hear me out on this one.
If you are new to the concept of Intuitive Eating, and haven’t read the actual book but have just been picking up bite size pieces from Social Media, your idea of intuitive eating might be something like “Eat all you want, whenever you want”. Or “Eat only when hungry and stop when you are satisfied / comfortably full.”
There are truths to these ideas but it isn’t the whole truth and there are much more nuance to this way of coming back to attunment with our bodies when it comes to food and eating.
Yes we want to get to a place where we can honour our physical hunger, instead of denying it. And it is lovely to be able to stop eating when you feel comfortably full and deliciously satisfied. But in order to get there, you most likely need to do a few things first.
There are also times when waiting to eat until you are physically hungry is impractical and for some people the hunger cues are less accessible than for others. However this doesn’t mean that your body doesn’t need food. It means that you need some reliable structure to make sure that you feed yourself despite the absence of cues and signals.
Often when trying to recover from an eating disorder, eating tends to be either chaotic or restrictive (and often both!) and in order to get to a place of “intuitive eating”, where we are attuned to our bodies’ signals of hunger and fullness we tend to need some structure so that we can make sure that the needs of eating regularly and eating adequately are met.
What does structured eating look like?
Having some structure to your eating includes planning and shopping for food. Because it so much easier to honour our hunger when we have food available and can make an easy meal or snack.
Planning can include making a weekly menu plan and buying the ingredients required for those meals.
It can also include batch cooking and having easy accessible freezer meals, frozen vegetables and pantry staples at your disposal so that it is easy to make meals that are filling and satisfying, even when time and energy is scarce.
Don’t forget how convenient leftovers can be for this. Make some extra when you are cooking and prepping anyway so that you have food for next day lunch boxes or a meal that just requires reheating!
Structured eating can also include reminders which helps us make sure that our bodies get fed in a timely manner. This is particularly useful if your hunger cues are faint, somewhat unreliable or if you simply struggle to forget how to eat when engrossed in something really interesting, and your attention is elsewhere.
Of course, having food to hand and easy accessible snacks will help when your alarm goes off to tell you that it is time to eat.
Structured eating can help you build body trust and help foster intuitive eating by ensuring regularity and adequacy with food.
What makes structured eating different from following a diet plan?
Well for starters: The fact that YOU decided on the structure and the type of foods that is included.
When you are doing your planning and shopping YOU choose foods that you like, can prepare and are within your budget.
Instead of following a plan with foods, that you might not even like or don’t have a clue how to cook and prepare, this plan is beautifully made for you and your life.
Sometimes, I help my clients with this in session, where we brainstorm together what the weekly menu plan can look like. This is a collaborative effort. Not me making a plan telling you what you should and shouldn’t eat (something I highly dispise) but instead together we are figuring out what it is you like eating what is satisfying, within the context of your daily life.
Years of dieting can make food selection challenging, so sometimes having someone else to explore with can help.
With structured eating the difference is that the structure is there to be supportive and flexible. Not rigid like a diet plan. You can’t fail with your own menu plan. If you decide in the moment to go with something different than what you had planned, that is fine. Attuned eating and intuitive eating are all about flexibility.
The final thing that I also want to mention is that part of structured eating, which promotes flexibility, is that there are times when you need to eat in preparation and anticipation. To avoid becoming “hangry” and losing some executive functioning. What I am talking about here is when you might be leaving the house and know that are most likely to be hungry later but at time when eating or access to food might be inconvenient or not possible.
So you choose to eat earlier because otherwise the risk of becoming hangry is impending.
How do you feel about structured eating?
Is planning ahead, shopping and prepping meals something that you find helpful when it comes to feeing yourself?
Are there barriers to creating some useful structures for eating regularly, for you?
What are the benefits, if any, that you have noticed?
I’d love if you’d leave a comment below with your own thoughts and hopefully we can all support each other with ideas that makes life easier.
P.S If you are looking for some 1:1 support to build a healthy relationship with food, eating and your body check out my services here. I will be taking on new clients from the 15th of June.
For people who have eating disorders or care for people with eating disorders (this is me), structured eating is a necessity in the short-term. Agree that it can also be helpful for people transitioning to intuitive eating, especially if they're coming from years of restricting or binging-restricting behavior.
Even as a person who hasn’t had an eating disorder, my hunger cue isn’t always reliable, so when I get engrossed in my tasks, I don’t always know I’m hungry until I’m dysregulated from hanger! I could deal with that before I had kids, but it can really send me spiralling these days if I’m not paying attention.
I’ve never thought about having a timer to remind me that I may need to eat something. I wonder if it would be helpful on my really busy days!